JEWS & NON-JEWS IN RITUAL LEADERSHIP ROLES

The following is our innovative decision regarding Jews and non-Jews in ritual leadership roles.

Since October 2015, in our Year of Wrestling Together, the DJC has held a series of community conversations on topics that are central to our community and that are core issues in contemporary Jewish life.  The overarching questions have explored the relationship between tradition and change and the range of considerations, commitments, and values that guide us.  Topics have included: Why Should Judaism Survive/What Is Meaningful About Engaging in Jewish Life?; The Changing Boundaries of Jewish Community; What Is Ritual & Our Role Within It?; Ritual Leadership Roles for Jews & Non-Jews; The Dynamics & On-Going Impact of Anti-Semitism & Internalized Anti-Semitism; The Rabbi–Community Relationship; and God, Spirituality & Atheism.

No issue we’ve discussed has attracted more passionate attention than the question of ritual leadership roles – what they mean, what knowledge and commitment are required of a person taking on a ritual leadership role, and whether or not these roles should be filled by a member of the DJC who is not, by birth or by choice, a member of the Jewish people.  While all the topics we have grappled with this year are areas for ongoing and open-ended reflection, learning, and discussion, the question of the role of Jews and non-Jews in ritual leadership was one issue that required a decision to be made.  At the end of this year, having wrestled alongside the community, the Board of the Danforth Jewish Circle and Rabbi Miriam have come to a decision, which we outline below.

The policy itself is important for our community.  Equal in importance is the process of learning and listening, wrestling and decision-making that led to it, as well as the on-going learning process that will flow from it. This initiative has enabled us to foster the kind of dialogue and Jewish exploration that enacts the values of chochmah – cultivating wisdom, and kavod – cultivating respect for one another.  These have proven to be essential ingredients for insightful, caring, and informed decision-making.  The journey we’ve taken has shed light on who the DJC is at this stage of our growth, the range of ways we seek to engage with Judaism and Jewish learning, and the covenant/brit we as a community share with Rabbi Miriam.  Although this has not been an easy process, we are deeply proud of the community and of our Rabbi for the thoughtful, respectful, courageous, and passionate way we have wrestled together this past year.

Ritual Leadership Roles for Jews & Non-Jews

What is the issue?

Since the DJC’s founding, anyone in the DJC could take on any of the ritual leadership roles in a service.  While it is not unusual for progressive and inclusive congregations in North America to welcome everyone to participate in all aspects of communal ritual and practice, in most Jewish communities acts of ritual leadership are reserved for Jews.

Ritual leadership roles are defined by Jewish sources as ritual actions in which one individual says a blessing or does a ritual/mitzvah on behalf of the whole Jewish community and acts as a representative of the Jewish people.  Judaism’s term for someone who enacts a ritual/mitzvah on behalf of others is a shali’ach/shli’chat tzibbur, a representative or messenger of the community/the Jewish people.

As part of the Board’s process, we researched the policies of other progressive communities in North America.  We turned especially to those communities with the stated objective of inclusiveness and/or progressive Jewish practice.  In almost every case, at least one or more ritual leadership roles could only be performed by Jews.  These progressive Jewish communities vary in the number of ritual leadership roles they would include in this category, but they often included:

  • An individual reciting a prayer or blessing on their own on behalf of the community (eg. lighting Shabbat candles as an individual, having an individual aliyah to the Torah, leading a prayer).
  • Chanting Torah on behalf of the community.
  • Blowing shofar on behalf of the community.
  • Lifting the Torah (hagba), dressing the Torah (gelila), or ritually carrying or holding the Torah as part of the Torah service/a Torah ritual.

What are the considerations?

In the course of our learning, we discovered several ingredients that were of central importance in order for the shali’ach/ shlichat tzibbur to lead the community with integrity.  These included:

  • Jewish knowledge related to the ritual action (eg. knowledge of Torah, of prayer and blessing, of the occasion being celebrated, how to do the ritual and why, etc.);
  • understanding of the words one says (of the blessing or prayer) and affirming the personal integrity of saying those words (while there is a wide range of ways of interpreting them);
  • developing the conscious intention of honouring Torah, honouring the Jewish people, and enabling others to engage in that particular Jewish practice through the ritual action/mitzvah of the shali’ach tzibbur;
  • making a formal and abiding commitment to the Jewish people and Jewish life beyond the moment of the ritual;
  • seeing oneself as part of the unfolding Jewish story – linked to the past and actively sharing responsibility for the future.

We explored various ways of taking these considerations seriously in the context of contemporary Jewish life.

Alongside these questions, concerns, and commitments, we explored what the DJC’s commitment to inclusion entails.  A number of DJC members, both Jews and non-Jews, including many of those who founded the DJC as a Jewish community that would be fully inclusive of non-Jewish partners, voiced concern that any role restrictions would represent a barrier to inclusiveness, symbolically casting non-Jewish members of our community as ‘second-class citizens’.  Our membership includes a significant number of non-Jewish partners and family members, and some people felt that to restrict some roles, even very limited ones, to Jews only would be to contravene a founding principle and spirit of the DJC.  Some members of the community framed the importance of this commitment based on personal experiences of painful exclusion and alienation in many other Jewish communities.  Others framed the issues in terms of the deep commitment and engagement of non-Jewish partners in raising Jewish children, participating in the vibrant life of the community, and actively contributing to the growth of the DJC.  And still others addressed the issues as a matter of principle.

What is the DJC’s solution?

We have weighed the content of the community conversations, as well as the reflections shared by individual community members in letters and in one-on-one meetings.  As a Board, we researched the practices of other progressive communities and the reasons that animate their practices.  As a Board, along with Rabbi Miriam, we have engaged in our own intensive learning and wrestling.  Rabbi Miriam has also consulted with diverse rabbinic colleagues in Canada and the US.

At the end of this process, Rabbi Miriam and the Board have come to the decision that creating distinctions between Jews and non-Jews in terms of ritual leadership roles is not the right choice for this community.  At the same time, we are committed to connecting our practices to the purpose and intentions of these ritual leadership acts. 

The Board and Rabbi Miriam have arrived at the following policy:

  • Ritual leadership roles will remain open to all in the community, Jews and non-Jews.
  • Anyone (Jews and non-Jews) seeking to take on a ritual leadership role is required to first engage in a process of Jewish learning, deepening their Jewish knowledge, understanding, and commitment.

The details of this learning process will be worked out in the next few months by Rabbi Miriam in consultation with a committee, with the intent to having learning sessions in place prior to the High Holy Days.

We believe this practice offers us a compromise that meets the needs and supports the principles of our Rabbi, of key values and commitments in Jewish life, and of the diverse perspectives within the DJC community.  Some of the strengths of this practice include that it:

  • roots access to ritual leadership roles in Jewish behaviour, rather than Jewish ethnicity;
  • honours our community’s commitment to inclusiveness;
  • honours and strengthens our commitment to learn and engage meaningfully with Jewish tradition;
  • supports an understanding and acknowledgment of the particular meaning and intentions of these ritual leadership acts.

As a Board, we want to acknowledge that no decision we come to in relation to this very personal and complex issue is going to be right for everyone in our community.  We have done our best to come to a decision that takes into consideration the diverse needs and perspectives of our community members, recognizing that as a community we will continue to engage in dialogue about these and other issues that affect our membership.

A Communal Spirit of Engagement

We couldn’t have arrived at this compromise without the process that led to it.  Ritual leadership roles was only one of the issues we’ve tackled this year in community conversations, but it provides a case study in healthy engagement:  between community members, between community and Rabbi, and between community and Judaism.  As Rabbi Miriam wrote in her reflections to the community about the community conversation held on January 25th, 2016, specifically about ritual leadership roles:

This most recent community conversation was difficult and brave, powerful and insightful.  I continue to be moved by the process we are engaging in, learning from one another, learning from this ever-evolving Jewish tradition that nourishes us, shapes us, and that we grapple with together.  We shared questions, commitments, and concerns with honesty and respect, even in the face of disagreement.  This is rare and extraordinary.  And what a deeply Jewish practice of wrestling it is.

Each community conversation has been co-facilitated by a Board member and Rabbi Miriam.  Almost every session began with Rabbi Miriam offering different Jewish sources and perspectives on the issue, with open discussion flowing from there.

The process highlighted some important themes:

  • Open engagement with Jewish sources was valuable in deepening our understanding of the issues. When we viewed Jewish sources as providing different categories of thinking and concern, rather than as didactic texts that are trying to get us to ‘believe something’, we had more fruitful and substantive conversations.
  • Having diverse community members and our Rabbi openly share their perspectives with each other was invaluable. In every session, we heard a rich diversity of insight and experience; people’s eyes opened, minds shifted, beliefs were clarified in light of others voices.  These were open, engaged, sometimes uncomfortable conversations where, for the most part, people really heard each other.  For the Board, participating in these conversations was invaluable.
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